Everyone in any country is confronted with family problem in one or other way in their life time. Most of the problems are between wife and husband on various issues. It is true that a famous Bhutanese saying that "If you don't have enemies, try to find a life partner"
and another saying that the most difficult enemy you would have in life will be the ones near to you. I think this is true. When we fell in love and marry, no one intends to become enemy of each other. But with the marriage come numerous roles and responsibilities. This means, lots of comprises need to be done and in doing so, we at times as human being either fail or do not agree with each other. As a result, family bond breaks down, the love we once shared become a sword that hurts you the most because it pierces the deepest into our emotion. External enemies can never overcome our emotions and feeling but the family does.
With more and more disagreements results to occasional exchange of blows and fights often leaving the rest in the family insecure, disturbed and not peaceful environment in our family. This, as we live further leads to fighting always and finally come the word of divorce or frequent family settlement requirements.
We never realize that we may be wrong, we always think that other is wrong and I am right so I should back up. Quite often, those who starts arguments are the ones who may not under his or her faults and accuses the other of not being gentle or good. We never come to consensus unless something happens. We regret over the past, argue at present and disturb the future peace in our family.
Therefore, we must appreciate the value in the Buddhist Philosophy of uncertainty and impermanence and thus, always try to comprise and be in peace and harmony.
and another saying that the most difficult enemy you would have in life will be the ones near to you. I think this is true. When we fell in love and marry, no one intends to become enemy of each other. But with the marriage come numerous roles and responsibilities. This means, lots of comprises need to be done and in doing so, we at times as human being either fail or do not agree with each other. As a result, family bond breaks down, the love we once shared become a sword that hurts you the most because it pierces the deepest into our emotion. External enemies can never overcome our emotions and feeling but the family does.
With more and more disagreements results to occasional exchange of blows and fights often leaving the rest in the family insecure, disturbed and not peaceful environment in our family. This, as we live further leads to fighting always and finally come the word of divorce or frequent family settlement requirements.
We never realize that we may be wrong, we always think that other is wrong and I am right so I should back up. Quite often, those who starts arguments are the ones who may not under his or her faults and accuses the other of not being gentle or good. We never come to consensus unless something happens. We regret over the past, argue at present and disturb the future peace in our family.
Therefore, we must appreciate the value in the Buddhist Philosophy of uncertainty and impermanence and thus, always try to comprise and be in peace and harmony.
