Bridging the Generation Gap

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Bhutan is rich in culture and traditions. It is considered one of the pillars of Gross National Happiness. This pillar is today faced with numerous challenges with the rapid socio-economic growth in Bhutan. In fact, the rate at which culture is depleting in Bhutan is faster than the expected pace.The civil servants system in Bhutan

is one such example. The civil servants in Bhutan are lead by so called the seasoned, senior and experienced with lots of wisdom. With growing number of fresh and young citizens are dominating in terms of number.

The greatest challenge in the civil servants is the generation gap between the young and old civil servants. In most cases, the old ones always win over the young ones, since they are the bosses.

I am a  young and stepping on the carrier in the civil service not only witness but also experience in my daily life of being a civil servant. The old bosses though does not tell, yet seemed to expect more respect, listen to their own proposal at times not understanding that some of their plans and proposals are more archaic and may not suit the present world, the world of information era. Some even tell, some react, some get frustrated, some annoyed and some feel offended if any young tries to convince them.

Today, many of our old parents and bosses feel that the young generations are losing the sense of respect, the very essence of living culture in our country. When the young civil servants make efforts to justify to their bosses, the bosses feel that they are challenging them and do not feel good. One of the reasons why many young civil servants get dormant and adapted to the system in spite of many potential and new ideas when they first join in the civil service.

The young ones feel that they are often harassed, their bosses rigid, unwelcoming or too bossy, too diplomatic and too demanding and adamant to adapt to the new world, the world of information era where everything takes place in a blink of an eye.

This does not mean that our senior government officials are archaic and old fashioned and are not good planners, thinkers or leaders. They are in their own way and that is why what Bhutan is today. Thus, it is praise worthy for bringing Bhutan forth into one of the most peaceful and nation of Gross National Happiness.

Similarly, the young ones  are due to the way they are brought up, the exposures they have and the world we see today unlike decades ago.

 The only challenge is the absence to bridge the gap and ability on the both side, the old and the young to blend the old wisdom and innovations. The old needs to more be more open, welcoming in innovations and creativities. The new ones need more ability to extract the wisdom and experiences in bridging the gap. Otherwise, the future of the country would face lots of difficulty in adjusting the present system of taking Bhutan into a greater height looking at the Bhutanese population (33% below 24 youth in Bhutan) and the opportunities and exposures ahead of them.

Bridging the Generation Gap

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Bhutan is rich in culture and traditions. It is considered one of the pillars of Gross National Happiness. This pillar is today faced with numerous challenges with the rapid socio-economic growth in Bhutan. In fact, the rate at which culture is depleting in Bhutan is faster than the expected pace.The civil servants system in Bhutan

A Friend in Delima

I have a friend, today he is faced with the biggest problem of so called love. He is married with a child for the last four years. He fell in love with another young lady from where worked as his wife was far away from her by chance.Today his wife knew about the extra marital
affairs.

His wife unlike many women in the world, instead of feeling jealous, frustration or any form of envy, heartily accepted and just wanted one thing... She said to him Hey darling, i know u made a mistake and i have no problem with that.. i accept the mistake because it is the nature of every man.... But i want one thing... we have a nice child... he is small and fragile... if you don't want to be with me... please think of our only child and his life..... I want you to break up with your girl friend and be with me all times.... i don't want anything from her.....i am in fact willing to pay her or give what she wants but not you my dear........His wife said " dear if you leave me, I am not warning you but telling you the truth that I will take my life as well as our child because i dont want myself and out child without you my dear"..... He replied.... ok .. dear.. i am so sorry, i made a mistake..... and i don't know how to describe the way you forgive me...... i will leave her.....

 So he went to his work place again. He meet with his girl friend... today, he said you know i have a wife and a child.... they knew about our relationship and sh wants me to break up with you. I am sorry, i have to listen to my wife because we have a child........... His girl friend stammered for while and... with tears in her eyes, replied" I know that long time the day we met. But i love you truely and don't want to be away from you. You leave me.. i will commit suicide". But he thought that would not happen. He came to wife's house. After a few days later he went to his work place......He was shocked to hear that his girl friend was admitted in the hospital after his departure... and now she is planning to take her life.....

Today, he is in a thick soup.. unable to sleep, unable to eat properly... he is in search of consulting astrologers, medical doctors, psychiatrists, lamas, lawyers and any one who could provide him a solution to solve his problem..... doe any one got any solution to this???????????????????????????????? hey... help help help and don't love to many...

A Friend in Delima

I have a friend, today he is faced with the biggest problem of so called love. He is married with a child for the last four years. He fell in love with another young lady from where worked as his wife was far away from her by chance.Today his wife knew about the extra marital

Who is good leader

 A person is defined by the quality one posses wherever he or she goes. The great leaders never bring personal life when he is in the office and similarly he does not take the official life when he is with his family. However, such leaders are few and scarce.

Be it in any office, we go, we find that
the officer is mood off not because he has problem performing his duties but because he has brought the family problem in the office. It is even more ridiculous if he or she ever uses these personal problems to his or her subordinates through loss of temper, scolding or frowning at them without their faults.

These are some of the prominent features in the Bhutanese Civil Service, many low ranking officials said that ultimately they have to bear the brunt of the personal problems of their bosses, because their boss was not in good terms with his wife or her husband. Many cite that these are more prominent among the older generation of the leaders and decision makers. Although there is no research on how the bosses harass their sub-ordinates when they have problem at home.

The inability to differentiate between the professionalism and personal life is the worst part of the life for any one. This is because, he or she not only bring home problem in the office, but also take the office problem at home. In this way, such leaders never led a healthy and peaceful life.

If one can control personal life in the office and vice versa at home, that person could become the greatest leaders in the society.

Therefore, development or habituating oneself to be able to control one own ego, emotions and express these feelings at the right place and right time is of paramount  importance.